Oming has transformed how I relate to sex. I imagine all of the things that Oming is not, all of the attributes of sexuality and relationship that don’t apply to OM; that are outside of the container. Things like jealousy, economics, obligation, expectation, goals, control, attachment, worrying about what they think of me, if they value me. What’s going to happen next? Will I be forgiven for what has happened before?

The more time I spend in the nest, the more I embody the knowledge that all of these things that are utterly absent from the nest are optional in the rest of my life. Perhaps these are merely cultural defaults, engraved in my ego over so many years, that are no longer obligatory in my sexual connections and other relationships. Maybe I’d like to keep some of these things, and drop others. The point is that now I am at choice.