Why Drunk Sex is Usually Bad Sex

by OneTaste Living Library  Mar 1, 2014
Why Drunk Sex is Usually Bad Sex

Originally posted by Cosmopolitan, written by Anna Breslaw

You, like many of us, might need at least three to five drinks on dates in order to show any real interest in how many siblings this person has or what their major was. However, if you have plans to take this person home, it might not work out as well as you think.

In theory, the concept of "hot drunk sex" is great, but in practice, we're actually throwing little-known physiological obstacles in the way of our orgasms. (Yes, booze makes coming harder for women, too.) I spoke to clinical sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk about why drunk sex will likely end up with two hungover, frustrated, and non-orgasmic people.

Drinking can lower inhibitions and lead to a sense of relaxation at the beginning of a coupling. It can help people feel more "in the mood" and therefore can lead to some people engaging in sex when they may not otherwise. Many people assume having a few drinks first will enhance their sexual experience.

But being drunk during sex affects both men and women differently. In regards to a guy's performance, there's not just the issue of "whiskey dick" that can occur with alcohol consumption — his not being able to get or maintain an erection. He may also may not have the concentration to engage in foreplay or direct clitoral stimulation, making sure that his female partner experiences an orgasm.

Female sexual response goes down with alcohol consumption. Vasocongestion, which is the swelling of the vaginal tissues that make the vagina receptive to penetration, decreases, as does lubrication. Lack of lubrication (as you may have experienced) can lead to painful sex. Research has shown that women who consume even less than the legal limit report longer times to achieve orgasm and decreased intensity.

Drunk sex can impede orgasm on several other levels as well: it can impair judgment and concentration, two issues that can be important when choosing who you are having sex with and how you are having sex with them. For instance, having the wherewithal to use contraception for safer sex may not happen, leading to feelings of anxiousness during intercourse that can affect your ability to have an orgasm. There's also a greater chance of our regretting it the next day.

Overall, people who don't drink report better sexual response, improved orgasms, and higher sexual satisfaction than those who drink to have sex.