The Path of the Feminine: Desire, Part 2

by Nirmala Nataraj  Dec 18, 2013

In the final installment of this three part series on the feminine, we learn about what being a Turned On Woman means to the world, to changing relationships and how a woman can fully bring her power to transform the world around her.


A Turned-On Woman is connected to her desire because she wants to reclaim it in the name of all that is genuinely good and true. Desire has been beleaguered by the battering ram of harsh religious and cultural doctrines for thousands of years, particularly with respect to women. Our seductive curves, erratic emotional landscapes, enigmatic and nocturnally regulated reproductive systems, and life-giving, pleasure-producing bodies have been wrongly aligned with suffering and sin rather than the most delicious and divinely mysterious forces in existence. But re-training ourselves to walk the path of the feminine means that we must dispense with conventions, open to the moment, and freely express the expansive energy of love.

Love, ultimately, is what we desire and what we are here to experience: it’s a way of seeing that pierces through illusion and recognizes and accepts the inherent violence of life. Love sees death staring into its eyes with the knowingness of pain, decay, and separation. Love accepts the darkness and the light equally. It doesn’t use force, intimidation, or other tools of conquest. It is infinitely accepting and approving, for it knows that what we resist, persists.

For a Turned-On Woman who is truly on her path, surrendering to the freedom of being fully alive and awake is the only thing that matters. Previous experience, however, has shown that not every woman feels this way about her desire. The woman who is honest about what she wants is not the average woman. She opts for truth over stability, internal wealth over external validation. But these are choices few women make, and for good reason. The court of public opinion tells us we need to be good girls or suffer the consequences. We must resign ourselves to the life we’re getting, rather than to ask for what we really want.nThankfully, with the advent of the women’s movement, more attention has been given to the unique needs of the feminine—which we know is not tantamount to equal rights.

Reclaiming our feminine power cannot be achieved by steamrolling over gender differences and neglecting the dynamic polarities of masculine and feminine, but in re-forging the junctions that can bring us into harmonious balance with the world and with each other. We, as a culture and a species, are on the precipice of great change. The world is shifting, relationship dynamics are changing, and both men and women must change as well. The old ways—the masculine ways—are crumbling. Our economic models, religions, institutions like marriage and family, and even how we relate to the global community are no longer working. We must move toward a more connected, more holistic view of life or we will not survive. In other words, we must shift from a masculine worldview to a feminine one.

And our desire is the only vehicle that will carry us not just into the forest of our own truth, and not just into deep, transformational relationship with others, but also into the emerging reality that is right around the corner.