Desire as the Path of the Feminine: Part 3

by OneTaste Living Library  Aug 11, 2012

In the final installment of this three part series on the feminine, we learn about what being a Turned On Woman means to the world, to changing relationships and how a woman can fully bring her power to transform the world around her. nnnn nnBy Nirmala N.nnA Turned-On Woman is connected to her desire because she wants to reclaimnit in the name of all that is genuinely good and true. Desire has been beleaguerednby the battering ram of harsh religious and cultural doctrines for thousands of years,nparticularly with respect to women. Our seductive curves, erratic emotional landscapes,nenigmatic and nocturnally regulated reproductive systems, and life-giving, pleasure-nproducing bodies have been wrongly aligned with suffering and sin rather than the mostndelicious and divinely mysterious forces in existence. But re-training ourselves to walknthe path of the feminine means that we must dispense with conventions, open to thenmoment, and freely express the expansive energy of love. Love, ultimately, is what wendesire and what we are here to experience: it’s a way of seeing that pierces throughnillusion and recognizes and accepts the inherent violence of life. Love sees deathnstaring into its eyes with the knowingness of pain, decay, and separation. Love acceptsnthe darkness and the light equally. It doesn’t use force, intimidation, or other toolsnof conquest. It is infinitely accepting and approving, for it knows that what we resist,npersists.nFor a Turned-On Woman who is truly on her path, surrendering to the freedomnof being fully alive and awake is the only thing that matters. Previous experience,nhowever, has shown that not every woman feels this way about her desire. The womannwho is honest about what she wants is not the average woman. She opts for truth overnstability, internal wealth over external validation. But these are choices few womennmake, and for good reason. The court of public opinion tells us we need to be good girlsnor suffer the consequences. We must resign ourselves to the life we’re getting, rathernthan to ask for what we really want.nThankfully, with the advent of the women’s movement, more attention has beenngiven to the unique needs of the feminine—which we know is not tantamount to equalnrights. Reclaiming our feminine power cannot be achieved by steamrolling over genderndifferences and neglecting the dynamic polarities of masculine and feminine, but in re-nforging the junctions that can bring us into harmonious balance with the world and withneach other.nWe, as a culture and a species, are on the precipice of great change. The worldnis shifting, relationship dynamics are changing, and both men and women must changenas well. The old ways—the masculine ways—are crumbling. Our economic models,nreligions, institutions like marriage and family, and even how we relate to the globalncommunity are no longer working. We must move toward a more connected, morenholistic view of life or we will not survive. In other words, we must shift from a masculinenworldview to a feminine one. And our desire is the only vehicle that will carry us not justninto the forest of our own truth, and not just into deep, transformational relationship withnothers, but into the emerging reality that is just around the corner.