THE ONETASTE RECONCILIATION COUNCIL POLICY
The Reconciliation Council was established by OneTaste Inc. in October 2013. The Council provides a confidential forum for the resolution of certain matters for OneTaste Leaders (as defined in the OneTaste Code of Conduct), namely:
- Staff of OneTaste Incorporated or OneTaste City Affiliates,
- Back-Of-House, and
Please note that the Council no longer facilitates reconciliation between Orgasmic Meditation® practitioners who are not also OneTaste Leaders.
If you are not a OneTaste Leader but you have concerns or a complaint about the conduct of a OneTaste Leader, please read the OneTaste Code of Conduct and, if appropriate, contact the Ethics Committee at [email protected].
If you are an OM Practitioner and have a concern or complaint regarding the conduct of another OM Practitioner, please review OneTaste’s policy on OM and Personal Safety.
The Council is available to OneTaste Leaders at no cost and seeks to provide OneTaste Leaders the support they may need to stay connected. That being said, participation in a reconciliation is always entirely voluntary, and you may opt out of reconciliation at any time.
The Council is a body distinct from OneTaste Inc. However some of the costs of the Reconciliation Council, including travel, are borne by OneTaste Inc. out of OneTaste Inc.’s desire to support the work that the Council is doing. The Members of the Reconciliation Council are appointed by the Board of Directors of OneTaste Incorporated.
The Council’s members hold their positions as leaders whose personal integrity and commitment to serving Orgasm. Having an OM practice is not a requirement for holding a position on the Council, although members of the Council are frequently OM practitioners themselves.
This Policy will provide you with a basic overview of the Council, our reconciliation process and some explanation of what we believe supports sustainable reconciliation. There is no “one-size-fits-all” reconciliation method, but we have developed a standard container in which we trust that reconciliation can occur.
From the most senior staff to the newest back of house, the Council is committed to serving all OneTaste Leaders with equal respect, confidentiality and integrity. There is no hierarchy in reconciliation, only the opportunity for connection. There is no fear and there is no punishment. Everyone is equal in the container of reconciliation.
Please read the following service disclaimer statement related to the Council’s legal limitations. Should you request to or agree to participate in a reconciliation facilitated by the Council, you will be required to acknowledge that you have read and understood this statement.
Terms of Engagement
- The Reconciliation Council holds space for reconciliation requests on a first-come, case-by-case basis at no cost to participants.
- The Council may refer you to the Ethics Committee for matters covered by the Code of Conduct.
- The Council may refer you to the OneTaste OMbudsman for more business related concerns.
- Though the Council is managed by highly skilled individuals, we do not serve in place of therapists and do not offer trauma services.
- Policy engagement overview
The OneTaste Reconciliation Council is an effort to reconcile personal challenges arising between OneTaste Leaders. Participation in reconciliation is voluntary and is based on the participants' intention to reconcile their differences through open and candid discussion of what may involve uncertain circumstances and confusing emotional issues. The Council is not a replacement for legal redress, therapy or trauma services. So that the Council can continue to provide this free support service we will ask both participants to review and sign an acknowledgement to this effect and an agreement to the legal parameters of the reconciliation process at the earliest possible stage.
The reconciliation process starts from the moment you or someone else contacts the Council and requests an initial “grounding” conversation. You or someone else might make this request via email, phone, face-to-face or text. You can reach all of our managing Council members online through our email [email protected].
Once you contact a Council member, we immediately work to schedule a phone conversation. Most of our contact and support is facilitated by phone through the Council’s conference call line. Sometimes Council members will hold face-to-face reconciliations. When talking to OneTaste Leaders outside of the United States, we frequently use Skype or FaceTime as a way to get connected.
If you are not the person who initiated a reconciliation request to the Council, you may receive a call from us requesting an opportunity to explore reconciliation. This happens when someone else would like to talk with you. This opportunity can transformative - we view all reconciliation conversations as opportunities for growth. We prefer to frame interpersonal misunderstandings as challenges instead of conflicts that always offer something to learn.
Regardless of who initiates the reconciliation, no one is viewed as right or wrong, good or bad, victim or perpetrator. The members of the Council do not take sides, interpret one person’s message to the other or favor either participant, regardless of who is in the reconciliation container. We believe reconciliation is an unbiased pathway to greater truth and orgasm for everyone.
Prior to actual reconciliation sessions, The Council holds private grounding calls with each participant to get a feel for how participants view the challenges they’re facing. During these calls, one participant may simply “unload” their ideas and reflections about the challenge, others who are involved with the challenge and their own role in the challenge.
Occasionally, Council members will ask questions that directly or indirectly challenge the participant’s perspective on an issue. Council members don’t coach or actively work to sway a participant one way or another. We put forth questions to participants to make room for new points of view that may help with real-time resolution. Regardless of how much time is spent with one-on-one grounding calls, members of the Council are aware that what really matters is how participants directly engage one another in actual reconciliation sessions.
Several grounding calls may be held prior to a reconciliation session. Council members may recommend some homework including journaling or inventory in between calls. We may also discuss the concept of self-reconciliation and “the exchange at boundaries” in order to illuminate possible opportunities.
There are times when grounding calls are not necessary before a reconciliation session. In such cases, participants have determined that they can and would like to talk immediately and have no need for preliminary talks with Council members. Skipping grounding calls is up to the participants. When all parties are ready and willing, entering the container of reconciliation is a next step. Participants are always free at any time to change their minds about participating.
Once grounding calls are complete, the Council will hold a first reconciliation session. Depending on the need or desire, participants can choose to have more than one reconciliation conversation about the same challenge. If one session brings resolution, the reconciliation process is complete. If six sessions are desired, six sessions will be scheduled, subject to availability of the Council members. There is no one-size-fits-all reconciliation method, the style and outcomes of sessions are determined by the unique characteristics of the participants.
Once a date and time are determined, the Council will provide participants with a call-in number. Participants are asked to plan for a minimum 60 minutes for all calls. Adjustments in call time can be made in real time by the participants and attending Council members.
The Container of reconciliation is an opportunity for shared exploration. The Container is developed through open, honest and critical conversation. As in the practice of Orgasmic Meditation, participants can surrender to and engage with what is and make requests and adjustments in the interest of deep connection. No one would ever come to an OM with intent of disconnecting or alienating and the same attitude should be brought to the reconciliation process. We are seeking to stay connected.
Council members “witness”
The OM Reconciliation Council has developed a predictable and objective process for holding reconciliation sessions for OneTaste Leaders. The Council operates from the premise that participants have the inherent power and desire to reconcile. We believe participants can seek and find the right stroke or strokes necessary to reveal the ever-present connection that resides underneath the temporary challenge. We believe it is our job to stay as far out of the way as possible and quietly encourage the process.
As witnesses to the reconciliation process, Council members will open reconciliation sessions with brief commentary and recommendations to participants and then quietly listen to the unfolding dialogue. Council members remain mostly quiet throughout the entire reconciliation process, but might ask permission to offer observations of the participant conversation. Additionally, if participants ask council witnesses to contribute reflections, the council witnesses will certainly oblige. However, the real and most important exchange is truly with the participants who came into the container with the challenge. There have been times when participants feel they are at a loss for words; they don’t know what to say to one another. In moments like this, the Council witnesses may speak or they may wait in silence. We practice “feel over formula.”
Why we remain silent
The Reconciliation Council firmly believes that participants can resolve their challenges with guidance from one another. The session is a reunion that has its deepest power in the unfiltered, direct connection between those that have drifted apart. As Council members we don’t want to get in the way of them finding one another. We don’t want to save or rescue the day. We desire to encourage and witness only. Even when exchanges get heated and voices get loud, we hold that the desire for connection will prevail in the end.
Completing reconciliation sessions
It is participants who bring reconciliation sessions to an end, not the Council. As a Council, we respect and surrender to the power of the participants. We believe that they will come fully prepared and available to exchange ideas, explore sticking points and develop resolution strategies. The Council does not impose its will on participates. What’s most important is not what Council members think; this is another reason why we are silent. Our words may help, but only participants can hold the new agreements of reconciliation. We believe deep penetration, humility and authentic surrender are keys to the new beginning that reconciliation can provide.
Here are a few brief reflection points that you might find useful as you move toward reconciliation
- Listen as much, if not more, than you talk.
- Seek to understand, not to be right.
- Speak for yourself and your experiences.
- People change.
- Relationships change.
- Reconciliation is a process, not an event.
- Our reconciliation process may involve several conference calls and written reflections.
- Enter the container of reconciliation with the desire to learn, not the desire to coach.
- Enter the container of reconciliation with humility not hubris.
- Enter the container of reconciliation with the desire to surrender, not the desire to imprison.
We look forward to learning and growing with you through reconciliation.