OM always requires a partner. Who you choose as your partner is entirely up to you. Some people OM monogamously with people they're romantically involved with . Some people are single and OM with friends. However you want your practice is completely based on your desire. We support all paths of practice. For single people who are looking for a partner, here are some helpful tips:
Your comfort in finding an OM Partner will grow with practice. When asking somebody to OM, keep the request simple. Do not mix invitations to OM with other offers (like social activities, dates or sex). This helps eliminate the expectation of providing something in return, and keeps OMing relationships clear.
How Do I Ask for an OM?
We ask for an OM in a way that reflects the reality that we are doing something together, not that one partner is doing something to or for the other.
Would you like to OM?
Will you stroke me?
Can I OM you?
Make sure to set a time and place for the OM (e.g. an OM Circle). Specificity is key.
You may have feelings arise when you ask for an OM: feelings of excitement, joy, fear, hope or desire are all normal.
How Do I Deal with Someone saying “No”?
People say “No” for many reasons. If you get a “No”, simply say “Thank You”. It is part of OM etiquette not to ask “why?” as it probably has nothing to do with you. Part of the practice is finding your “yes” and your “no” as well as accepting the same responses from others. Consent is paramount to the practice.