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How OM Makes You Sexy

Nov 15, 2013
It's an old, familiar adage: Power is sex, and sex is power. As we’ve already explored in some depth, a truly turned-on woman is a woman who is in full custody of her power, which we don’t define as force or, really, any kind of exertion. Force suggests a rigid need for control that has us putting …

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An Experiment in Receiving

Nov 13, 2013
I live in a community house in Southern California with seven people. Last night, all seven of us participated in a house meeting in which each of us received an "assignment" to grow. Something that would take us out of our comfort zone, help us release old patterning, and create leaps …

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Turning Fear into... Orgasm?

Nov 12, 2013
Orgasm and alchemy: it has recently dawned on me the profound degree to which these two are interrelated. Alchemy, simply put, is the process of transmutation. Lead to gold. In the realm of relating and intimacy, it refers to a metaphoric transmutation—basically transmuting myriad forms of fear …

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My Orgasmic Life: The Proposal

Nov 11, 2013
Today was an amazing day because I watched two of my students get engaged. It was amazing because I had watched them from the beginning of their relationship—from their fights to their break ups to the distance to them learning how to relate to each other. And I felt like this proud father …

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Get "That Spot" Touched

Nov 7, 2013
I'm often told after OMing with a new strokee something along the lines of, "Wow, that was an unusual OM. I haven't had an experience like that before." In OM we want to find the spot with the highest sensation. Oftentimes this spot is exactly the one that we tend to avoid. Strokers and …

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The Orgasm of Art

Nov 5, 2013
There is no formula to art, and there is no formula to orgasm. At best you can follow the sensation to paint the resonant stroke that allows others to feel it too. In a twisted way, my original assessment that “the quality of art just depends on the story you put around it” did have some …

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Kick Obligation Out of Your Sex Life

Nov 5, 2013
I was reminded of one of my favorite things about OM today when a stroker with whom I haven't OMed in some time came over for an OM today. I haven't seen this man for several months, aside from the occasional run-in at a local event. This is how it went: I am sitting on my front porch in the sun, …

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Turned {On} Moms

Nov 4, 2013
I was embarrassed to find that when recently faced with the question, “What is a Turned-On Mama?” I froze. I felt like I was failing to define a literary term on an English exam; I didn’t know how to describe it, but I know it when I see it. A Turned-On Mama is... well, you know, turned ON. She’s …