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Beyond Gender - Unlocking Your Whole Human

Jun 20, 2016
The Tarot is a fairly elegant examination of life. It starts with the Fool card, which represents endless possibility. Then the deck splits into masculine and feminine all the way down to the last card, which is the World card. It is the highest, most evolved card because it represents the union …

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Rapidly Changing Reality - And How to Thrive In It

May 23, 2016
Last week I took a trip to Romania. My first wanderlust-driven trip in nine months, the longest gap I’ve had between adventures in years. I’ve become accustomed to calling my vacations adventures. Vacations are uneventful, adventures are memorable. It is rare, indeed, that I come back without a …

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The Antidote to Trauma is Pleasure

May 20, 2016
I once read in a New York Times article, “being human is a traumatic experience.” My definition of trauma is having experiences that are more pressure or speed than the psyche has the capacity to open for. If I throw a ball without completing the throw, all the energy that was supposed to go to …

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In Love With Loving Out

May 13, 2016
Lately, I'm hooked on this idea of love out. Have you heard of love out? Woohoo! Love Out! It all started, 20 or so years ago, with this idea that I was hungry. My background, you may know, included a path to being a Buddhist nun. I had the idea that there was something that I needed to get, …

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Strength Training For Holding the Weight of My Own Desire

Apr 26, 2016
Last March while traveling in Turkey, I found myself on a date (as one does) with a tour guide I met during my visit to the Aya Sofya in Istanbul. As we were playing the requisite Get To Know You Q&A while walking across the Galata Bridge, I found myself telling him about my Olympic …

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Real Men Learn From Women (And This is How)

Mar 25, 2016
Men, it's true. Women want us to become better men and they want to help us. It has taken me a year in this practice to realize and accept this. I used to take adjustments and be thinking, "Oh I fucked up and did something wrong, the woman didn't like what I was doing and now she is never …

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Letting Go and Showing Up

Mar 22, 2016
Lately I’ve been exploring trying. Trying to be a good girlfriend/person. Trying to be conscious. Trying to be open. Trying not to upset people. Trying to do it right. Dear God: trying, trying, trying - it’s exhausting. With it comes a sense of seeking and striving, holding on, constriction, …

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The Clutter In Your Soul, and How to Clear It

Mar 8, 2016
So there's this thing I do as part of my practice. It's called Fear Inventory, and it's basically a writing meditation where you list out all the fears you have underlying a resentment you are feeling. After you write them all out, you read them aloud to someone else and then tear up the paper it …

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No More Nice Girls or Guys - We Want Sex, We Want Your Beast

Mar 4, 2016
If you happen upon me on a Saturday afternoon, chances are likely that with little provocation, I’ll talk about anything our collective and connected hearts desire, so long as it feels palpably real and true. It’s one of my many charms – I tend to go for shock factor and I always make it feel …

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The Feminine-Masculine Dance of Orgasm

Mar 3, 2016 We, as a culture, cannot afford to have women be starved for orgasm and also expect to have happy men. …