Cock Sucking for Her Pleasure

by Ruwan Meepagala  Oct 22, 2013

There is the standard cock sucking narrative we all familiarly tolerate: the kind of blowing that sucks. The kind that follows the pop song structure: verse chorus verse bridge gag moan climax. The gag really is a gag—it's theater for the home performer. When the giver is an actress then you, the receiver, are as much an actor following a script where involuntary spasms and the appropriate amount of saliva is as premeditated as dinner and a movie. Despite the fact that you achieved this goal of reducing the distance between your genitals and her mouth to zero, you still must struggle to stay conscious. Neither you nor her is touched. That movie has been played out over and over and you know that you might as well daydream because you've this seen this show and it only gets interesting at the end.

Then there's the kind of cock sucking where the actors have burned the script. Where the body parts in contact don't matter and are chosen just by what fits—because what really matters is that both players are touched. Where the giver is as much the receiver, and receiver the giver, and such labels are as silly as deciding which hand is clapping the other. What's far more interesting is the applause. And the applause is the play itself, where one actor can feel when the other checks out because the players have better things to do with their attention than to go through motions without continuous celebration. You may struggle to stay conscious because the increasing sensation leans hard against your limit for what's possible. And the play doesn't end with ejaculation. The play with her doesn't really end ever.

Yes I'm talking about fellatio. I'm also talking about far more. Cock sucking from a TurnedON woman vs. a woman who is only doing it "for you" is what skydiving is to watching the Columbus Day parade on a black and white TV. Can't tell the difference? Next time you have lips wrapped around your cock, here's how you can tell if she's sucking for her pleasure:

1. You can feel your arousal increasing even before contact. True desire co-creates. That means if you're feeling it, she's feeling it, too. In fact, if you're feeling it it's because she's feeling it. If you all of a sudden start thinking about her sucking your cock without any reason, she may have put the thought in your head.

2. She knows what you want before you say anything. The stroker is the more surrendered position. This means that she is following the sensation—not imposing her will on your cock. In The General Theory of Love an experiment was cited that showed a person's brain activates to make a motion before the person is conscious of the decision to move. This suggests that someone who can feel you on a visceral level—in the way that OM trains us to feel—can know what you want even before you do.

3. She notices if you get distracted. This is the big one. Her attention is so attuned that she can feel if you're not present. She calls you out because your presence affects her pleasure. Remember, when people are turned on the roles of "giver" and "receiver." fall away. The quality of the cock sucking experience depends just as much on how you show up as how much she does.