How on earth do you start this thing?
by OneTaste Living Library Aug 1, 2011
Many women and men come to us curious to OM, but feel stumped for lack of a partner. What we tell them may surprise you: Since OM is a form of meditation, your partner could be anyone who shares your interest in meditating this way. In principle, it could be a friend, an ex, a new acquaintance, even a member of your own gender (or the opposite one, if you are gay.). The only requisites we suggest are that you know, like and trust the person.
You might want to consider writing a list of every possible person in your life that falls under that criteria and whom you could imagine sharing this practice with, even in the slightest way. I can guarantee you that you know at least one!
Once you’ve landed on that one, your request to them can be as simple as, “Want to OM with me?”. If they don’t already know what that means, you will have to explain what in the world you are asking them to do. You could show them this blog or send them the “How to OM” video to watch. When Nicole’s first OM partner approached her at a party his words were simply “I have a practice I’d like to share with you”. The care and simplicity with which he described it had her sold.
At the outset, the most important point for you and your potential partner to get clear about is that a request for OM is not a request for sex, romantic entanglement or any other activity above and beyond OM. Even if the two of you have an ongoing sexual relationship, initiating OM is not initiating sex. It doesn’t imply anything about what will happen when the session is over.nIn other words, OM is not foreplay. What “foreplay” connotes is preparation for something that comes after. It is a means to an end, and can be judged a success or a failure depending on whether that end is achieved. OM is about bringing the whole of your attention to the present moment. You can’t do that if you are hoping or striving for or worrying about something that might (or might not) happen next. That is why it is so crucial for both parties to understand that agreeing to OM together does not imply an agreement to do anything other than OM.
Try it, and let us know how it goes!